At my Maryland Romance Writer's meeting last night, the guest speakers were sex therapists (yup, I love my job!). They were thoroughly engaging, educational and entertaining. But one of their points rubbed me the wrong way, as an author. Apparently most people don't scream during sex. Who knew? If you want the gory details, there's something called a glottal reflex in the throat, and closing it (i.e. holding your breath) actually makes an orgasm better. So screaming is self-defeating.
Good to know and all that, but not at all romantic to write about. Which is sexier:
"Now, Nate. Take me now," she panted.
As he thrust into her, her glottal reflex kicked in. Callie held her breath.
Do you see my problem? Of course, authors want to portray things as truthfully and realistically as possible. If I wasn't writing science fiction and my heroine suddenly sprouted a third breast, it would be ridiculous. On the other hand, it is an unwritten romance convention that women never have their periods as they are being romanced in a book - no matter how much time a book spans.
Call me a die hard romantic, but I'm going to continue to write a little...oral enthusiasm, shall we say...into my books. But what do you think? Should characters scream during sex? Or by doing so, are we horribly short-changing their orgasms, therefore being very mean authors?